Your job as a parent is the most important responsibility of your life. You are literally (especially in your child’s first six years) determining the future that your child will have because whatever you tell them, show them or allow them to be subject to, they readily and innocently accept.
They are downloading information on a daily basis through what they see and hear happening in front of them and during the first six years they have no filters or previous experience to draw on, so they simply accept whatever happens as absolute fact. You are teaching them how the world is through your behaviour, actions, beliefs and expectations and they eagerly and unquestioningly download this information into their subconscious mind, they soak it up like a sponge.
Any negative energy that you express and show them or allow them to be subject to they also take on board and this begins to form their inner resistance, which they will have to contend with for the rest of their lives. This early years downloading sets the vibrational boundaries or comfort zones that they will more than likely be chained to for good and once the boundaries are set, it can be very difficult to break free from them.
As parents you are setting out the blueprint for your child’s future. You are having a massive influence on whether they have a life of struggle and strife or success and happiness depending on what you teach and subject them to, especially in the first six years. It’s all about the energy that you allow into your family home and your job is to bring them up in a home filled with as much high vibrational energy as possible.
A home filled with love, happiness, joy, kindness, laughter, fun, consideration, caring, unselfishness, encouragement, discipline, sensible rules, good routines, strict sensible bedtimes etc…. is vitally important to how your child will feel about themselves for their entire lives. Sensible rules and discipline shows your child that you care and that you love them, lack of rules and discipline they can very easily subconsciously interpret as maybe you don’t love them and don’t care so much.
It leaves the door open ajar for their inner resistance to go about its business of subtly whispering negative thoughts into their ear. It’s important here to understand that when as a parent you discipline and teach your children good manners, as well as teach them how to be thoughtful and considerate to others, you are helping them to grow up feeling good about themselves.
This helps dignity, self-respect, pride and unselfishness to develop and flourish all of which encourage positive thoughts and feelings about the self. And of course when you are nice and kind to other people they are nice and kind to you, they are not having negative thoughts and feelings about you, they are not firing negative energy at you. If you let children misbehave and get away with it you are in fact by not correcting their behaviour when they are being inconsiderate, negative and thoughtless to others, saying it is okay to behave in that way without respect for others.
You are teaching them it’s okay to act in a selfish negative disrespectful way that doesn’t take the feelings of others into account. This can establish within them habitual negative behaviour patterns, which will damage them in the long run, as they will when displaying selfish behaviour be faced with frustration, anxiety and anger from the people that they are hurting, irritating and annoying.
This creates a negative cycle of energy that will as long as they are putting it out there rebound back onto them. Antagonising, irritating, disrespectful, belligerent and spoilt behaviour creates frustration, anger, annoyance, exasperation and bad feelings coming back at them and this just strengthens or even adds to the inner resistance within them, cementing them even more firmly to the vibrational level they are at.
Remember the energy environment that you grow up in generally becomes the energy environment that you spend the rest of your life in. A childhood full of anger, hate, struggle, frustration, disillusionment and the experience of parents that don’t bother to administer discipline correctly because they don’t understand the consequences or are too selfish to care condemns your child to a life surrounded by thoughts, feelings and emotions that embody these types of energies, which means they will attract experiences that reflect these types of energies.
They can end up stuck for a lifetime in repetitive negative energy cycles of their own making as their inner resistance continuously replenishes itself at their expense. If they make other people feel negative in any way through their behaviour you need to correct the behaviour and explain to them it’s not acceptable to do this to other people. If you don’t then you are allowing bad traits to develop which can soon become entrenched within their personality and this is always going to come back and hurt them. It’s simple put good energy out get good energy back, put bad energy out get bad energy back.
Follow this simple guideline and you will be getting it right and this is good parenting and of course most parents naturally do this. On the other hand a childhood full of love, compassion, kindness, happiness, joy, fun and real thoughtful caring parenting means a lifetime surrounded by these types of energies attracting these types of experiences. I am sure I know where I would prefer my children to be. You are determining the level and strength of ‘inner resistance’ that your child will have through your positive influence and behaviour in front of them.
The importance of this cannot be underestimated. Quality time spent playing with your child will help them much more than simply telling them to watch a DVD or entertain themselves with a computer game. Of course there is nothing wrong with computer games (some of them) or DVD's especially when you encourage them with love and affection to enjoy watching or playing but when it's done with frustration and stress because you can’t be bothered you are creating the wrong energy.
Really it's about getting the balance right and when you have got time for them always try to be positive, interested and loving, as this affirms your love for them. Try to keep negative energy out of your home, never argue in front of the children. If you have a disagreement sort it out when the kids are not there. Never let them hear about any problems that you may be having.
Every family will experience the everyday ups and downs of life, arguments, money issues, health problems, cars breaking down, boilers bursting, washers flooding the kitchen etc. When these things happen accept them without the negativity that is usually generated, keep the frustration, anger, stress, worry, anxiety etc, out of it especially in front of the children. It’s important that you do your best to manage your mind and stay positive.
Any negative energy that gets into your family home will have a negative impact on your children for life. Many TV programmes are filled with negativity. Even the soaps are now massive generators of negative energy. Subjecting your children and indeed yourself to negative energy from your TV set is not good for either of you and if your children are under six years old the damage can be long lasting. There are positive options, feel good movies; cartoons, fun game shows and comedies are a much better form of entertainment to allow into your home than programmes filled with anger, arguments and frustration.
Be positive about money, health and relationships. Your relationship with money is what they download and become stuck with. If you struggle with money or always have the feeling of never having enough, they will pick this up and absorb this energy from you. They will then be monitored by their inner resistance for the rest of their lives to always feel that money is a struggle. For example years later when they get the chance of a good, well-paid job they may find that they are driven from within to find someway to sabotage that opportunity.
They will fail because their inner resistance wants them to because it is sticking to the energy boundaries downloaded in childhood. I have seen people do this (and done it myself) time and time again, come up with a list of feeble excuses to leave a good job, often it defies logic and it’s never their fault. There is always somebody else or something else to blame, its never them but in fact it is always them, its their inner resistance getting its way and keeping them in the vibrational comfort zones that it naturally gravitates to.
What you are witnessing is the person’s inner resistance heavily influencing them and it’s not always in their interests, it simply wants to stick to the vibrational boundaries because this ensures its survival. Remember its presence within you keeps the negative energy flowing through your thoughts, feelings and emotions. This never ending routine keeps it strong and powerful.
This is how it survives; it needs negativity on a daily basis to maintain it's presence at the vibrational level it has become used to and you are the supplier. This is how it works; your children absorb your vibrational energy about everything, which forms the inner resistance within them. So be very careful what you subject them to.
Even if you are struggling with money don’t show this to them, give the impression that everything is fine and money is easy to get and this will help them download a better feeling towards money then they will find years later that money comes into their life more easily. Typical negative phrases around the subject of money like ‘who do you think I am Rockefeller’ and ‘money doesn’t grow on trees’ should never be used in front of your children.
This is how you program them negatively about money and when they do get the opportunity of that well paid job later in life they may find their inner resistance getting in the way sabotaging their success. This is why we say love in childhood means a happier more successful life, it really does and I mean love in the broader sense, joy, fun, consideration, thoughtfulness, laughter, happiness, sincerity etc. Another way of saying it would be ‘a childhood filled with high vibrational energies means a better life’.
This applies equally to relationships; your children will observe your relationship and begin forming their inner resistance and beliefs about relationships based on this, which will determine how their relationships will more then likely go in the future. If they see you arguing they will absorb that energy and it may manifest in their relationships in the future. If they see you constantly complaining about your health they will more than likely accept that this is how it is and eventually begin doing the same?
The way that your inner resistance manifests through you programs your children to do the same. If you want a better life for your children then you must overcome the urges of your inner resistance and only allow high vibrational energies to enter the family home.
Always tell your children that they are the best, they can do anything if they try, and they are wonderful, beautiful, amazing, fantastic, incredible, and most importantly that they are loved. You can never tell them this enough. Knowing that your parents love you is the most important factor in keeping their level of inner resistance at a minimum.
As soon as they are born whisper this (or something like it) to them every night when you put them to bed and you will be programming their subconscious (which is very programmable when they are just falling asleep) for a successful, happy, high vibrational life, 'you are beautiful, you are amazing, you can do anything and I love you more than anything in the world'.
It’s all common sense really and now you understand the principles of ‘High vibrational thinking’ and how you develop your inner resistance, you can see why allowing negative energy a free reign in your family home can be so damaging.
When they start school and bring you home their school report always talk excitedly about the good points make a big fuss of this and when that’s all done you could quietly mention the things they could do better in. This is the way to keep them feeling good and how to help them do better. Never emphasise the negative issues, make light of them and don’t generate any bad feelings.
Remember negative energy has no place in your home if you are to do the best for your children. Your job is to ensure that your children have the least possible exposure to negative energy and the maximum possible exposure to positive energy.
This will make sure that they grow up with the best vibrational program downloaded into their mind, which means a lower level of ‘inner resistance’. This will then help them feel good about themselves and life in general, which will create the best possible life in the future, free from many of the problems and difficulties that we have all been subject to. Most of us have grown up in an environment where negative energy has run rampant and our parents had no idea that the daily engagements of negativity were damaging us. Arguments, anger, moaning, stress, anxiety, fear, frustration, negative gossip and lack of affection were considered normal thoughts, feelings and emotions to express.
This gave many of us a difficult life path to travel chained to the lower vibrational zones by the weight of our ‘inner resistance’. No wonder so many people have struggled in their lives. Well now you know how it works you have the opportunity to change all of that for your children. It’s very simple, the lower your vibration the harder everything is, all the problems exist down there so why would anybody want to live down there. Stay in the higher vibrations and life is wonderful.
Happiness, success, peace, joy and love exist in the higher vibrations and that’s where you want your children to live their lives. Create a home for them with as much high vibrational energy as possible, this will give them the least possible ‘inner resistance’ ensuring that they will exist and live their lives at the highest possible vibration and you will have achieved the greatest success of your life.
Remember the first six years are the most important. A strong and powerful level of ‘inner resistance’ means a life of struggle and the more of it there is the worse it will be. A low level of ‘inner resistance’ means a far easier, happier and more successful life in the higher vibrations where all the good stuff is. The best thing you can do now for your children is work on breaking down and releasing your inner resistance. This will make it easier for you to keep negative energy out of your home and this will ensure a better energy environment for your children. The next chapter shows you how to do this.