Inner Resistance ‘Let’s raise children who won’t have to recover from their childhoods’ -Pam Leo-An independent scholar in human development, a parent educator, a certified childbirth educator, a doula, a parent, and a grandparent Your inner resistance is the negative energy that you carry within. Everybody has this and it is mainly created in the first five or six years of our lives. During this very sensitive and formative time period we are operating similar to a computer when it is downloading data. Everything that we experience and are taught we readily absorb and download and this information is not always of a positive nature. The main source of our early years information downloading is our parents, close family and immediate environment. Our early experiences are accepted without question, as we soak up whatever is going on around us and accept that this is how the world works. We believe what we see and hear and from this exposure to data we begin forming our opinions and beliefs, opinions and beliefs that will affect the rest of our lives. The down side is that we are often exposed to negative energy, which plays out in the dramas that we witness taking place. Anger, hate, fear, frustration, worry, stress, violence, greed, anxiety, selfishness, envy, suffering and pain of all kinds are the energies that we see and can pick up through the everyday experiences that we are exposed to. As well as experiencing this type of energy in our everyday environment we are also subject to TV programmes, computer games, the media and DVD’s churning out negative energy by the boatload in the name of entertainment. All of the negative energies that we experience contribute to forming what I call our inner resistance, an accumulation of negative energy that becomes lodged within our energy field. You could describe it as trapped emotional energy. This trapped emotional energy becomes part of us and defines our character as we become the person that it influences us to be. It exists within us so we become tainted by its presence; it then lives through us infecting our personality negatively in every conceivable way.
‘Every emotion has its own special vibrational frequency, anger is different to frustration and when you feel an intense emotion you take on its vibration and sometimes it gets stuck and it’s like a ball of energy’ -Dr Bradley Nelson-The Emotion Code
At the age of around six-years old we more or less stop the intense downloading and whatever we have downloaded up until that point, we generally carry for the rest of our lives. At this point it has become well and truly entrenched within our mind and body. This inner resistance is like a ball or a collection of balls of slow vibrating negative energy that infects and drags down our general vibration, pulling us down to a more negative frequency range, than we would naturally exist at, a frequency range that ultimately we become used to and accept as where we belong. Then we become the version of us that lives in that particular vibrational range, a version of us that is constantly affected by the negative energy that we carry and that surrounds us. This then becomes our default vibration which we are estimated to exist at around 80% of the time. This is the vibration that we keep returning to as we ride the roller coaster of energies everyday of our lives. If we moved up in vibration we would be come a more positive version of us if we moved down a more negative version. A person that has experienced a very positive energy upbringing, which would be loving caring parents, few family arguments, very little exposure to negative energy from the TV, DVD’s, the media and computer games etc would only have a moderate amount of inner resistance or negative energy lodged within their energy field. A person growing up subject to lots of negative energy such as heated family arguments, money problems, maybe a messy parents divorce, family feelings of frustration, bullying, stress, worry, greed, hatred, negative gossiping and fear etc could end up with a lot of negative energy lodged within their energy field creating a powerful force of inner resistance. This is why it is vitally important to try to keep negativity out of the family home especially during the first six years when a child is at their most sensitive and absorbent. Inner resistance exerts a massive influence over us and in extreme cases (when we have lots of it) it can cause us to get dragged so far down in vibration that we may start manifesting dysfunctional behaviour traits such as bullying, self-harming, eating disorders, anger issues, alcohol abuse, violence, drug abuse, depression, anxiety, lack of self-worth, overwhelming feelings of loneliness, etc and even physical illness. When we have a very strong dose of inner resistance most of our days can be spent under its influence feeling down, worried about whatever and in general not so good about life. It can dominate our mind flooding us with a constant barrage of negative thoughts and feelings chaining us permanently into the lower vibrational zones. It is also important to realise that we all have inner resistance maybe to varying degrees but we all have it. And we all have our moments where we behave in dysfunctional ways or feel down and depressed etc, we may think this is just how life is but if we had no inner resistance we would not experience these things. So we all have and experience various levels of mental health issues at times due to the inner resistance we carry, unfortunately in the world as it is today this is regarded as perfectly normal. In fact you would have to be enlightened not to occasionally have mental health issues and apparently there are only two or three truly enlightened people alive on the planet today. Enlightened meaning they carry no inner resistance so they exist at a very high vibration virtually negative energy free. So for the rest of us who are not enlightened mental health issues are just part of the experience of life for the moment. This viewpoint eliminates stigma because we are all in the same boat and looking at mental health from that perspective means we should always try to help, offer support and understand others that are suffering because tomorrow that may be us, even if at the moment we are affected to a lesser degree. So if you feel you have got problems but don’t want to admit to them don’t worry everybody is the same almost without exception. There is absolutely no shame or stigma attached to being the same as everybody else. In fact teaching something along the lines of this to children in school would go a long way to alleviating the problem of stigma and this is something maybe we should be striving for. If you have been told you have mental health problems remember it is more than likely because of the inner resistance you have become stuck with, although as I previously mentioned unless it is a chemical imbalance, head injury or some other illness that may have triggered off your mental health problems. However whatever it is I believe the effect is the same, your energy vibration is dragged down into the more negative zones and this then results in the manifestation of one or more of the many different types of problems due to the intense negative vibrations. So this is how it works, something drags down your energy vibration (generally your inner resistance) and you become stuck in a more negative zone, which makes it difficult for you to function ‘normally’. The further down you are the more difficult it is to be ‘normal’ and when you are a long way down and really dysfunctional this is when we say somebody has mental health problems; this is when we label it, although everybody is dragged down to some degree and because of this experiences some form of mental health problems occasionally. Talking openly about mental health is a great way to lift the stigma and begin helping others and yourself. The more open we are with other people the more it will be accepted and the more we will all learn. Talk about it, share your experiences and rest in the knowledge that everybody is suffering from it in some way. Displaying anger, greed, jealousy, selfishness, low mood swings, stress, panic, worry etc are all manifestations at some level of mental health problems and we are all doing it. You just have to look around at people’s faces to see the inner turmoil many are lost in. Mental health is really no different to physical health if we don’t exercise our body it becomes unfit; if we don’t exercise our mind by engaging in positive actions such as affirmations, meditation, mindfulness, the notebook method (next chapter) etc we become mentally unfit. If we don’t make the effort it gets clogged down with negativity. Fortunately most people don’t have such a strong a presence of inner resistance that it completely takes over their life and renders them totally dysfunctional but they will have enough of it to ensure that they will be under its influence at sometime everyday of their lives. It won’t normally completely take over your thoughts and feelings but it will frequently show its presence. Even when you are not aware of it you may be feeling slightly tense just under the surface, this is your inner resistance that you are sensing. Its brooding presence is never far away from your conscious awareness. It also springs to life many times during your day when you react to whatever is happening in a negative way. Maybe you lose your keys and suddenly feel frustrated and exasperated because you can’t find them. Or somebody makes a negative remark and you snap back angrily at them. Your instinctive negative reactive response is your inner resistance sparking into life through you. If you didn’t have inner resistance you would not have a negative reaction, you would simply and calmly think about and respond to the situation. When you have reacted negatively you will feel the negative feelings flooding through your mind and body and this gives your inner resistance what it is after, a nice little top up, a recharge at your expense. This is how it stays strong within you, by topping up its battery everyday through the negative thoughts, feelings and emotions that it ignites within you. You get angry you recharge its battery, you worry, feel stressed, feel jealous, feel upset, feel depressed, feel irritated, feel envious, feel guilty, feel frustrated, feel annoyed or feel disillusioned etc, you are topping up its battery. You are allowing it to live through you and recharge itself; it is a parasite feeding off you. This goes on every day without you realising it and what you are doing is keeping your inner resistance strong and powerful within you. Picture it as a ball of negative energy that lives within you that needs charging up every day, just like your mobile phone. The trick is stop reacting and you stop recharging it, then it will slowly disappear. And because it is heavy slow vibrating energy it is holding your vibration down making your life more difficult in the process. It acts like a heavy weight and pulls down your overall energy vibration holding you in a more negative vibration. So the more powerful your inner resistance is, the heavier it is and the more it will drag you down. The further down you are the more problems you will have in your life because as we learned through high vibrational thinking the further down in vibration that you are, the more negative energy you will be subject to and of course this means the more likely you will experience mental health problems. Developing inner resistance is nobody’s fault and it’s something that we all do. Everybody experiences many different levels of negative energy as we grow up. And because we are all different we all respond to it in different ways. One person may develop a powerful and strong form of inner resistance and another person may hardly be bothered by the same amount of early year’s exposure to negative energy. It depends on many things personality, temperament, sensitivity, genes, character etc. In the world as it is today the experience of negative energy is very much a part of life and impossible to avoid. This makes inner resistance part of everybody’s life and an influential factor in everything that we do. It has an affect on our relationships, health, financial position, work, the level of success we can achieve and even the level of happiness that we can attain. It reaches into every area of our lives and has a damaging affect; to change things for the better you must weaken and release the inner resistance you hold within. This will allow your vibration to rise into the higher vibrations where less negative energy exists, which will ensure you will have an easier, more positive and happy life, a life with less mental health issues. Getting your vibration up by working on releasing your inner resistance is how you can cure or at least alleviate many mental health problems.
‘Many of the things that are pushed upon the masses creates negative emotional molecules, once they are formed they are real and you can’t get them out of your body unless you know how’. -Don Tolman-Whole Foods Nutritionist and Author